In On Our Best Behavior - a raw cri de coeur, penetrating social analysis, and revealing personal reflection - Elise Loehnen deftly deconstructs one of the central ideological buttresses of patriarchal society: the shaming of women for having human desires, strengths, capacities and strivings of body, mind, and soul. Doing so, she provides a guide to liberation and a return to the authentic feminine self.

Gabor Maté MD, author of THE MYTH OF NORMAL

A stunning, big and bold encyclopedia of how to live – the first post-pandemic book to take our latest measurements and provide something fresh to comfort, embolden, enlighten and enrich who we are today. Loehnen is never instructive but always right. The book never flags and each section has a takeaway for how to live wiser, and an anecdote to help you feel less alone. On Our Best Behavior is nothing short of a tangible necessity in our new intangible world

Lisa Taddeo, author of THREE WOMEN

With equal parts wit, wisdom, erudition, and warmth, author Elise Loehnen takes us on a guided journey through history, culture, and our own psychologies to not just investigate the limiting effects of Patriarchal thinking in women's lives, but to free them. Pleasure, connection, trust, and joy - all these and more await the reader lucky enough to spend time in conversation with a truly remarkable mind. Half historical docent, half big sister with a hot cup of tea, read this author and change your life

Terrence Real, author of US

What if women finally found freedom – because we gave it to ourselves? In On Our Best Behavior, Elise Loehnen brilliantly reframes our toxic cultural programming and helps us to see that what we thought were our sins are actually our greatest virtues. This book is the gift we have all been waiting for

Lori Gottlieb, author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE

Elise Loehnen is absolutely excellent and this book is one of the most important books I've read in the last decade. It explores some of the main ways women have been insidiously conditioned subconsciously and consciously by society and culture. Please read this book, I found it liberating and we can only change what we are aware of!

Poppy Jamie

A reimagining of our sins on a biblical scale, On Our Best Behaviour is astute, radical and utterly compelling

Katherine May